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Do Not Forget “You” While Encouraging Others


design-37Encouragement Today

Today is to encourage those who love and support your chronically ill family and friends.

Do you have a loved one or a dear friend who is struggling with the physical effects of a chronic illness or pain?

Do you watch them while you find yourself struggling with experiencing the frustration of not being able to help?

Do you struggle with wanting to cry because of the constant pain they are in?

Does the darkness of the day, your pillow or your shower know the hidden tears you have shed?

Have you run out of encouraging words to share because everything you say is found to be redundant?

Do you know the pain and frustration of letting others down when your plans change because your loved one is not well or strong enough to go?

Have you lost friends because they do not understand the loyalty you have to your sick loved one?

How many times have you sat in a hospital emergency room or doctor appointment and you feel alone while you hold the hand of your sick family or friend?

My friend, please know you are not alone. There are many people who know the pain of loving and supporting a chronically ill loved one.

It is important to remember, it is healthy to reach out to those family and friends who will lift “you” up in prayer.

I have included a list of specific prayers you can ask your friends to pray for you.

    Request prayer for God to hold you in His loving arms while you hold your sick loved one in yours.
    Ask them to pray for the loving words of encouragement, strength, and comfort you can share with your loved one while supporting and encouraging them.
    Ask for the wisdom you need in order to ask the difficult questions that they will not think to ask for themselves.
    Lastly, ask for the strength to fight for the care for your loved one if the doctor is a difficult and unsympathetic one.

It is important to know, it is not selfish to ask for emotional and physical help for yourself while you take care of your loved one. It is important to do this because you can not serve, encourage, or support others from an empty vessel.

This is a tough, long, and difficult journey you are on if your loved one has an ongoing health crisis or is experiencing regular chronic pain. This situation is not going away after a week or ten days. It is one which continues on for weeks, months, and years ahead,

You will not have the physical stamina, no matter how hard you try, to sustain this without the physical and emotional support of others who love you. You need them and their prayers to keep moving forward and pushing past the exhaustion you feel on a regular basis.

My friend, please do not be afraid to lean on your circle of friends or your encouraging groups to seek this help for yourself. When you do, you will experience a spiritual renewal and refreshment that is needed for your spirit and soul. This refreshment and renewal will enable you to keep going as you continue to travel this journey with your loved one.

Remember this… you are important and you are… enough! Do not forget to take care of “you” while you take care of your loved one.

2 thoughts on “Do Not Forget “You” While Encouraging Others”

  1. Having you put into words what it’s like to be a caregiver gives me a new perspective. As I’m the chronically ill person, it’s important I understand what I’m putting my kids and grandkids through. Right now, I don’t need constant care but they have to drop everything to pick me up from the ER, take me to procedures and just the constant worry they have. I don’t want to cause my children extra grief and be a burden but they’ll insist it’s fine. Now I’ll know what signs to look for in them when the time comes I’ll be more dependent on them. Thank you and I understand how wonderful you are to be there as caregiver. Never forget to take care of yourself first and foremost.

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    1. Awe, thank you so much for sharing with me your perspective from what I wrote.

      I am so cautious what I say or what emotions and feelings I have as I try to be sensitive to the needs to my two (my husband and my daughter).

      They have no control over their situations, but it doesn’t mean I do not get tired and frustrated because I hate to see their struggles and the pain they live with day in and day out.

      Pain is brutal, as I am sure you know first hand, but to be that inconsiderate family member is one I never want to be.

      I can assure you when they tell you they are fine, they mean it. They want to help you and be there for you no matter what your needs may be. They love you and it is that love that will keep them by your side. You will never be a burden just like mine are not, but there may be times where they may become weary and tired because unfortunately these emotions are real.

      If they they are like me however, they will be by your side no matter how they feel personally.

      I am so thankful for your response. It was refreshing to see how someone who experiences a chronic illness see the caregiver side.

      Many hugs and prayers as you go through your journey in life. It is my prayer today that you will be blessed with a beautiful day of renewal of your strength and your spirit. 💜


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